"Change the Role, Not the Person" -- Latest Diversiteria Q&A at SHRM
Change the Role, Not the PersonQ: We’ve spent a lot of time and money on training sessions to increase diversity awareness and a lot of people seem to respond well. Why don’t we see better bottom-line results from these programs?
A: The goal of most diversity programs is to maximize diversity and inclusion and therefore foster an improved work environment. Some believe the absence of inclusion can be remedied by exposing people to the experiences and uniqueness of other people. The assumption is that this intervention will create a change in the individual, causing them to recognize the value that each person possesses, thereby resulting in a wider harmony and better relations.
While it is true that knowledge of other people’s experiences will bring greater understanding and promote empathy between people who might otherwise not understand each other, there are two problems with this approach. First, changing people is extremely difficult. People don’t like to change and they particularly don’t like other people trying to change them. Secondly, empathy is not enough. If a business is to function better, greater empathy is only going to get you so far.
If the goal is to change behavior, trying to change people is going too far, and will likely fail. But trying to make them more empathetic is probably not going far enough. What is required is to change a person’s role rather than changing the person as a whole. And ‘role’, here, is not used to refer to an actor’s part, or a specific job. Role is meant in a systemic sense. In a system, everyone is connected. If I alter my place in the system – my role – I am changing my relationship to everyone else in the system. It is as if an invisible line connected everyone to everyone. If I move, everyone must adjust.
Some years ago, we worked with a company president who was a tyrant. He yelled, he screamed, he threatened, and intimidated everyone. One day, on his own initiative, he enrolled himself in an active listening course. Upon his return, and between his threats and put-downs, he advised everyone that he had attended an active listening course and from now on he would be active listening. After the usual demand and command performance, he stopped short, pointed to the first person in front of him and said, “I’m active listening. Speak!” And he sat and listened for the first time in the group’s experience. He listened to what each person had to say, and he learned what was really happening in his company, and he was able to be a far better president than he had been.
He had not changed as a person. He was still a tyrant. But he had redefined his role by incorporating active listening as part of what he did, and his change in behavior affected everyone around him. In this case, listening brought new ideas and better collaboration. His change in role inevitably caused a change in relations, and that created new rules for working together.
The goal of diversity is not to change people, a rare and difficult task at any time and not the responsibility of organizations. The goal of diversity is to offer individuals the opportunity to redefine their roles and relations so that they can maximize their own abilities and skills and add their wit and wisdom to the corporate effort while maintaining their exclusive individuality.